What doesnt kill you, makes u stronger….

I love the fact that I’m ambitious, it drives me to achieve my goals. I think others are driven by my ambitious nature too…but last night during one of my regular sleepless nights I started thinking that maybe I am too ambitious. I want to do so many things career wise, hence why I’m so busy and probably why I dont sleep a lot because I have too much going on in my crazy mind.

I still have higher goals…I have dreams that one day I want to fulfill and I truly believe I will. And I believe if I lose my ambitious nature I’ll never achieve my goals…

So the reason for today’s blog is to say dont give up. Stay Ambitious and believe in yourself. There was a dark time in my life that I dont like to think about or recall too often but it’s driven me to succeed in life. I was told back then that I would fail in everything I do….well Ha!!! So far I have succeeded and will continue to do so. That dark time passed me by 7 years ago tomorrow…and I’m thankful to god everyday that I’m not in that place anymore. Life is great…and worth living.

Life wasn’t made to give up, it was made to live, however hard it is. We all have bad days, I have some miserable ones sometimes!LOL.  BUT I’m going to use my favourite slogan today…because it’s a very important time in my life right now, “what doesnt kill you just makes you stronger” xxx

Why speak to me differently just because I’m a woman?!

I recently got told all women are on par with men and on the same level…which I firmly believe. But why is some of the male species still think they can speak in a certain way to women, just because we’re women! Well that’s something I wont tolerate.

Yesterday I was having my rant on facebook because over the past week I have had a couple of encounters with such men who have spoken down to me, disrespected my views, spoke to me like something on the end of their shoe and then when I’ve tried to dispute their views they’ve gone further to disrespect me…why? Well let me tell you why…although my opinions were justified and I was speaking in a matter-of-fact way…and I knew what I was talking about they just thought (obviously not with their head) ‘oh she’s a woman…silly c*w probably doesnt know what she’s on about.’ Well….Mr this woman does!

If you’re talking media with me, if you’re talking Asiam music and the entertainment industry with me you can bet your last dollar that I know above and beyond many. 10 years I have worked within this industry and it’s my life. It seaps through my blood vessels and is me and I have only the best intentions for the industry & its people to mind.

It didnt bother me that these people disagreed with me or didnt think in the same way I did, after all we all have different views on everything – what bothered me was the way I was spoken to! I was spoken down to because I’m a woman…end of. One particular conversation was then had with a male colleague of mine, yet he wasnt disrespected!

Strong women are very evident in today’s society…but we didnt grow off some tree, we didn’t use our looks and short skirts to become strong. We used the biggest tool we have (unlike blokes) our brain! I am so passionate about my work and that will always be the case.

Many years ago something like this would have soured my mood and brought me down…and believe I have had such experiences where men have belittled me so much that I’ve been very close to give up…but now they cant move me. I stick to what I believe, I fight my corner and refuse to be undermined.

I hate to see any difference between men and women on matters such as this, but this evidently made it clear to me that there is still a difference. It’s actually quite exhausting to discuss this and bring it to the surface when we live in such a liberal society as its very sad it still goes on. I feel like such a feminist going into this so deeply because I think men and women should walk parrallel to one another. But some men think very differently….even today.

I’m not prefect, I dont always have all the right answers, I dont always get things right…but I still deserve the right to be respected as a fellow colleague…xx