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Yesterday I went to watch the new movie PINK starring Amitabh Bachchan…in probably one of the best roles I have seen him in play in a long time.

 

The film wasn’t just something to watch to pass time but it was the reality of what is going on in India today, in fact every day.

 

As many already know the 16th December 2012 Delhi rape case struck a cord with me as it did with so many others, hence why I set up my organisation ‘Damini – The Voice of Strength’ so I watched this movie with a heavy heart and a chill down my spine.

 

The reality of the movie was chilling from so many aspects. Without giving too much away about the narrative for those who haven’t watched it yet I felt the movie portrayed the reality of the horrific situation in India right now.

 

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The boys

It’s all fine to go out and have a good time.

Everyone does it, a group of guys go to a bar or club and get talking to a group of girls, they offer to buy them a drink, they share a few jokes, the girls smile coyly enjoying the attention and happy they’ve gotten a free drink out of them, the girls even take up the offer to go back to one of your rooms for more drink….but that doesn’t mean it’s an invite to jump into bed together does it?

 

The Girls

They’ve wore their newest dress, it’s a bit short but perfect for the bar they’re going too, plus it’s not provocative. Just because she’s chose to wear an appealing outfit doesn’t mean she’s going to be ‘easy’. They feel great that they’re getting some attention from a group of lads, but without knowing them and their intentions it’s not necessarily safe to be drinking with them, or worse still going back with them to their room for more drinks.

 

What does it teach Boys?

Just because girls are smiling at you and laughing at your jokes, oh and they took that drink you paid for from you doesn’t mean she wants to sleep with you. Don’t judge a girl because she’s outgoing or dressed in a certain way as that doesn’t mean it’s an invite for you to touch her inappropriately or take advantage of her. Remember every girl you meet in life is too someone’s sister or daughter.

 

pink02What does it teach Girls?

The film teaches girls not to put themselves in unsafe situations, it teaches them to be vigilant and aware of the situation they are getting themselves into. Think before you act, think before you interact with the opposite sex and think before you could potentially be putting yourself at risk. Yes, all females should be safe wherever they are but as we know there are people out there with terrible intentions who don’t have decent thoughts. You are not doing anything wrong by enjoying yourself, having a few drinks and going to a few parties and you shouldn’t stop just because society stereotypes you for being out-going or independent but what you should do is be more ‘aware’ of your surroundings and those around you. No one can predict these things, and no one can know if you’re going to put yourself at risk of being attacked in such a way because we can’t control those who have such horrible thoughts or intentions, but what this movie does teach girls is not to put themselves at risk. It teaches girls not to trust everyone they meet.

 

The authorities in India

Well as shown in the movie these people are the worst culprits of all, and this is the reality. This is why nothing is improving in India, and this is why so many attackers and rapists are getting away with such acts. If you’re from a rich family you can buy yourself through the system to avoid sentencing and charges, and if you have connections with the police or government even better!

 

What many found shocking from the movie was that even the female police officers are happy to cover up such crimes, this however didn’t surprise me at all as it’s something I have heard again and again.

 

If the authorities can’t be trusted and they are taking ‘under the table’ bribes then what chance do the innocent have?

 

Overall

I personally thought the movie was brilliant and portrayed things very well.

 

PINK shows how easily girls can get stereotyped and how innocently and easily they can put themselves at risk. It teaches people that they need to change their mind-sets and how we sometimes view people isn’t always a real indication of who they actually are. It shows us how society judges females for being outgoing and independent and how they are looked down upon for having a voice or trying to gain justice.

 

Hats off to the makers of this movie for not being afraid to touch on this topic and bringing to life the everyday issue of India on the big screen to try and educate people.

Hats off to all the actors who depicted the characters and the storyline in such a realistic way. If you haven’t seen the movie yet then I advise you do…male or female you will take something away from this film.

 

A story I want to share with you all….

734339_452536081468722_1174637167_nEvery day I recieve a number of stories from girls, women and families.

Every day I recieve reports from India.

All to do with women who have been abused, raped or assaulted….but recently I met someone who told me his story which not only bought tears to my eyes, but made me realise more that I can make a difference, and I am making a difference.

I might not be able to change the laws in India, I might not be able to change the mentality of rapists but what I can do is be a voice for so many women and all the stories that go unheard or untold.

Here is a story I want to share with you all….

At the request of this person I cannot say his name, but he has given me permission to tell this story.

Few weeks back I was out with my sister and a few friends at a bar and this young guy who I’ve never met before asked if I would go outside and speak to him. At first I thought he was drunk and being sleazy so I said no, but he said it was important and to do with ‘Damini’, and that he wanted to tell me something. I agreed and went outside, and asked one of my friends to keep an eye on me just in case….

He started off by praising my work and said he was so proud of what I was doing. He then said I owe you a big ‘Thank You’.

Thank you? Thank you for what?”, I said….

This was his reply, “When I was a kid I lost my sister,” (at this point I thought he meant she had passed away)

“Something bad happened to her, which was beyond her control. No one’s ever told me what exactly. They just kept telling me she had gone away. I’d heard through family and people gossiping what had happened to her though, so I know. My parents disowned her for something that wasn’t even her fault…”

“I’ve heard your name ‘Reena Combo’ many times and I’ve seen you out and about loads, but then I heard what you were doing for your Damini campaign. I wanted to come to the vigil you held in January but couldn’t bring myself to be there. I then watched you on all the news channels, read about you on the internet, followed you on Twitter…and think what you’re doing is amazing.

“I saw you on BBC Breakfast back in January and recorded it, and then saw you again on there a few weeks ago, and again307657_10152365488020314_239955674_n recorded it. I sat my mum down and made her watch it. I translated everything you were saying in Punjabi so she would understand, and said ‘Look mum, look what this girl is doing for a young girl and so many other women across the other side of the world who she doesnt even know! She’s not related to these girls, she’s never even met them, yet she’s fighting for them! You couldn’t even support your own daughter. You couldn’t fight for my sister’

“Today, 15 years later my mum is now in contact with her daughter, I have re-connected with my sister and it’s all thanks to you….Thank you Reena.”

As he spoke to me he had tears running down his face, and so did I…..to know I had helped him, his mum and his sister unite again filled me with not only pride but more motivation.

He went on to tell me he promised himself that if he ever saw me he would say thank you to me personally and that his mum said that if you ever meet this girl you tell her from me to keep doing what she is doing, because without realising it she is making a difference.

I was reluctant to share this story as I didn’t want people to feel I was blowing my own trumpet, but his story is one that I think of everyday and it brings tears to my eyes every time, but it also make me realise that if we speak out and raise awareness we can make a difference.

I hope to continue what I’m doing, and grow my campaign more. My life has a new meaning….that is the fight for every Damini out there x